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This same type of abusive behavior is going on in my community. It has also taken the form of organized harassment. A whole group will bully an individual. The people who participate apparently lack insight to the extreme. They are unwilling or unable to see how abusive their behavior is. Although they are basically pathological liars and bullies, some of these folks convince themselves they are doing something good. (Whipping up a hate mob and violating your neighbors rights, always a good thing, right...)

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Yup - the magistrates at the Salem Witch Trial were upstanding men protecting their community by torturing the accused, who were mostly old women. Moral narcissism.

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There are Nicoles in every bunch. She believes in her point of view. I believe in mine; I also have been wrong in my view point many times. She is the barbell to practice detachment and avoid the traps of defensiveness and reactivity that takes one down rabbit holes, it can easily get very petty. I can't believe some of the attacks I have received by men on anti-feminist sites, such as it is my personal fault that young boys are suffering in the culture, (I don't subscribe to ideologies, just fairness) and attacks on every site as a matter of fact. What a revelation! We don't have the kind of choices we all would like for candidates. I know the Republicans are engaged in a merciless smear campaign against her, detracting from themselves. The biggest issue for me, is how the new vaccine passports in five countries in Europe put in the works by Tedros will affect the entire world. Will the U.S. follow? We have other huge national issues, but they will have a different flavour if the U.S. is under the control of Global governance.

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Of course. No one says "this is my opinion and I think it is wrong." One of the other virtue signaling items that Nicole posted while sniping at me was that it's a shame there is a lack of humility, that people can't admit they are wrong. This in tandem with saying she refused to read anything I recommend.

You are right, it can get petty. I did not respond many times and avoided mirroring her bad behavior until my last comment when I specifically threw her own words back at her.

Like millions before me, I am looking for ways to interact with narcissists that break through their distorted world-view and to hold them accountable for the psychological abuse they hand out. Like millions (billions) before me, I have found that the answer is there are none.

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Exactly, they would feel like they were 'dying' if they allowed another to penetrate their ego defense. The fear is too great for them, I actually understand the terror.

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OMG. Nicole might be my sister.

What a world we are living in!

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