One of the first thing dog trainers teach owners is to turn away from the dog that jumps on you and only pat and praise the dog when the dog behaves. Although modern dog trainers don’t recommend the “rub his nose in it” approach to house-breaking any longer, dog owners often bring the dog to potty accidents and speak firmly or harshly in order to convey displeasure. These are examples of operant conditioning, a.k.a. carrot and stick training.
Operant conditioning is the scientific term for the reward and punishment training that B.F. Skinner described in his studies with animals. You remember— the one where the dogs began to salivate the moment they heard the bell because it indicated dinner was on its way? There were others, like when the rat would keep pushing the lever in order to get a food pellet even when that action only results in food delivery some of the time. Other experiments involved electrical shocks.
Narcissists instinctively know to withhold approval and affection from their targets and display a range of negative emotions when their target is non-compliant. They also know how to give just enough positive reinforcement to keep their target engaged. It might be effective as a training device, useful for controlling animals at the zoo or in your home, and it might even bond the target to the trainer because the target craves positive attention and experiences, but this is not the way to build trust, respect or healthy communication between equals. This is not a normal or healthy human relationship.
MITIGATION: Go DEEP: 1
Rule number one: Remind yourself that you are not an animal. Judicious use of positive behavior modification techniques might be useful in potty training two-year-olds or getting recalcitrant school-age children to do their chores, but withholding affection and harsh punishment have no place in healthy human relationships.
When you are faced with this type of negative behavior from a toxic personality, remember the following:
D: Don’t defend yourself. Toxic personalities like to argue. They will project their bad intentions onto you, use circular reasoning, and become even more abusive. Verbal defense doesn’t work with these folks, not ever.
E: Don’t explain yourself. Since they refuse to ever lose any argument or see any perspective other than own, just let it go. They aren’t wired the same way you are.
E: Don’t engage. Since you can’t end up anywhere positive by engaging with a narcissist intent on controlling you, go somewhere else. Take a book and sit under a tree. Get in the car and go for a ride, alone. Go into the kitchen and cook something. Change the topic to some topic on which they like to expound. They are not your friend, especially in this moment. Disconnect as best you can.
P: Don’t personalize whatever it is they are doing or saying to you. Narcissists, sociopaths, and borderline personalities are driven by their own demons. They can’t help how they feel. However, they can help how they behave, but chose not to. You can’t change how they feel or how they chose to behave. They own it and they will behave the same with anyone in similar circumstances.
The sad fact is that humans are as vulnerable to Skinner style training as any other animal. This treatment re-programs our brains and is not healthy. It makes us insecure and anxious. When toxic personalities attempt to train us into compliance using these mechanisms, they are in fact brain-washing us. Psychological Operations (PSYOPS) is one place where operant conditioning is encouraged as a propaganda methodology, aka gaslighting. Operation Mockingbird is the alleged CIA propaganda initiative in the US begun during the cold war that targets the American media and people. Psychological abuse is also used to torture prisoners.
Rule number two: You are not a prisoner. Do what you need to do to survive or get out of the relationship, but never give up your personal agency. You own your own feelings, choices and actions, and they own theirs.
Dr. Ramani Durvasula is the clinical psychologist who has popularized the DEEP technique as a protective coping mechanism for dealing with narcissistic and other toxic personalities.
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